Objects & Attachment: Clearing Space
Last month I posted about objects and attachment in regards to letting go and surrendering to the process of change, growth (and outgrowth). Some of you asked about delving deeper into this topic, so I’ve decided to create a series around attachment in order to explore it more in depth. While this work is about letting go of attachment, detachment is not the goal. This work is about connection - aloofness has no place here. Our objects serve us, but it is up to us as to how. They can do so in unwanted ways, by fulfilling a false sense of identity, power, status, or even wholeness. We are whole on our own, and it is our job to do the work to be in this place of knowing. Things like identity, power, and status are constructs, and when we use them to fill us up, we are being untruthful to ourselves about who we are, which really robs us of living authentically and to our fullest. If we tear down these constructs, we can allow our objects to serve us by using them as vessels to connect to ourselves.
I’m in the process of getting rid of a storage unit full of all of my possessions (other than my clothing/accessories, some books, and a handful of other objects). These are things I haven’t necessarily outgrown. Things I cherish and love. Things that used to serve a positive purpose (and have potential to in the future), but right now, they are just sitting in a dark room, unused and unappreciated. My decision to let these items go did not come quickly or easily, but I felt a heaviness from holding onto them. An intangible weight - they’re taking up space in my life. Not physically, but metaphysically. For me, keeping the storage unit has meant waiting for something “better” to come along. I’m currently living in a lovely, tiny cottage, but it’s not conducive long term for two people and a dog. The storage unit has acted as a representation for what’s next. “Once we find a bigger place, we can put the credenza here and…” It takes me away from the present and from my relationships with the objects I currently do live with. From where I am in my life right now. From acceptance. I may move somewhere new in one month, or it may take years. I don’t know what the future holds, and that is magical. Anything is possible, so I’m creating space for all that I don’t know, for all that I can’t imagine - to make room for the possibilities, for expansion, for growth beyond my current understanding. I don’t want to stay stagnant in what was or even in what I want things to turn into, I want to be here, in the now. And for me, that’s a spacious way to live (even in 300 sq. ft).
This process may seem drastic, and I’m not suggesting that everyone should do the same. These types of decisions are deeply personal and individualistic. Check in with yourself. What is weighing you down metaphysically? How can you create space in this area of your life? Does it involve clearing physical space of any kind? This is a great journal exercise in order to look at where you may be holding on, in order to shed attachment and create space for the great unknown. If you’re looking to dive deeper into the work, sessions are now open again.