Objects and Attachment: Letting Go
In my ten month (unintentional) nomadic period, I traveled with just a suitcase. The rest of my clothing was sitting in the warehouse of a specialty cleaning company, waiting to be picked up. When I packed my suitcase last February, I had no idea I’d be living out of it for more than a few weeks. I had mostly jeans and t-shits, a sweater, skincare, and a few books - that’s it. Wearing the same exact thing four days of the week became so normal, and having choices while on such a crazy journey would have probably overwhelmed me. My physical appearance/how I presented myself was something I simply did not have time to care about or pay attention to.
Once we settled down in the cottage in Topanga, I was so excited to receive my clothing. When it came, I was incredibly let down. I sorted through everything only to realize I didn’t want most of it. Typically this would be such a freeing moment, but we had just paid an exorbitant amount of money (money we can’t just throw around) on the cleaning fee. I felt sick. I could have used that money to pay off debt, acquire some new things I actually need, donate, etc. What’s interesting is that I already did not own very much because I had been simplifying my life and ridding of things for a few years. The more I get in touch with myself, the more I know exactly what I want - items that make me feel the most comfortable, authentic, and free in my skin. Some items, like this vintage YSL blazer, absolutely serve that purpose. Only the pieces I collected in the year prior to living out of a suitcase (with the exception of a leather jacket I've had for years), were pieces I decided to keep. After sitting with the emotions, moving through them, and understanding that when I dropped my clothing off to be cleaned months prior, I couldn’t have anticipated the future, I was able to fully let go. I couldn’t have known then, that in a short period, I would go through an experience that would detach me so deeply from my stuff.
When I got the download for this website/venture, I wanted to explore that we can curate our lives with items that speak to who we are, in order to live with more intention and mindfulness. That’s absolutely true, but what’s even more important is that our things have nothing to do with shaping who we are. When we shed our attachment in order to see our objects as tools for connection, rather than as symbols of identity - the real work starts. I will be re-opening sessions soon to aid you with this process, so stay tuned. In the meantime, feel free to get in touch with any questions you may have.